Patriarchy Redefined?

I have been grappling with this issue for a while now. Most of the people seem to have put the concept of patriarchy under siege. Why? I think my accusing finger will point to pro-feminist propagators, if ever there is something like that.
Why do I think so? In the name of feminism people have developed some sort of agenda to paint anything they have a problem in accepting in gender and sex (whichever term you prefer) discourses as sexism. And this sexism is often skewed towards patriarchy.
In my opinion, patriarchy has nothing to do with suppression of women or females. It is some form of ideology that seeks to identify male from female. It is the society we live in that has influenced us into believing that patriarchy equals suppression of the female. Can we just be male and enjoy it without being accused of sexism?
I mean when a man abuses his female counterpart, that has little to do with patriarchy but a lot do with abuse! Let me stop here and allow for reactions. I will come back later to expound on some of the issues raised here.